We understand this is a big decision!
In this video, our counselors answer common questions about our intensives.
We are here to help you answer, “Is an intensive right for us?”. If you have more questions or are ready to get started, we’re here for you– give us a call today.
Focus on the Family’s Hope Restored intensives offer marriage counseling for couples who are facing a crisis in their marriage, and who may even feel they are headed for divorce. Hope Restored Intensives are all-inclusive, extended periods of counseling over multiple days that allow our team of marriage counselors to get to the root of the problem.
A Hope Restored Intensive includes:
- 20-32 hours of counseling over 3-5 days (100% satisfaction rate with our leaders)
- 3-5 nights of lodging (99% satisfaction rate with our accommodations)
- Breakfast, lunch, and dinner each day (99% satisfaction rate with our handcrafted meals)
- 15 weeks of aftercare, including follow-up coaching calls (80% of couples are married and significantly happier 2 years later)
The 4-Day Group Intensive structure has proven to be the most powerful format for helping couples move past the barriers that keep them from experiencing the marriage of their dreams. While it’s common initially for many couples to be reluctant to discuss their relationship in front of others, our participants repeatedly offer high praise for the group format on post-Intensive surveys.
The 4-day format includes:
- Approximately 32 hours of marriage counseling with our team of counselors.
- A safe and supportive environment with a maximum of five couples and two marriage counselors.
- 4 days and 5 nights in luxury accommodations with all meals served on location.
- A participant manual and other follow-up services with a Hope Restored coach.
The 5-Day Couple’s Intensive is our premier intensive experience, providing the most focused care of any Hope Restored Intensive. In this program, you will receive both individual and joint counseling over a period of five days from a male/female therapy team. While all of our individual programs are tailored to couples’ specific needs, this longer format allows for much more flexibility as you determine, with the counselors, the direction of each day’s sessions.
The five-day format includes:
- Approximately 32 hours of marriage counseling with a guaranteed male/female team.
- A safe, supportive, and private environment.
- 5 days and 5 nights in luxury accommodations with all meals served on location.
- A participant manual and other follow-up services with a Hope Restored coach.
The 3-Day Couple’s Intensive utilizes the same powerful principles as the 4-Day Group Intensive, yet is perfectly designed to provide additional privacy during marriage counseling, enhanced individual care, and greater scheduling flexibility.
The three-day format includes:
- Approximately 20 hours of exclusive marriage counseling with one or two Hope Restored counselors.
- 3 days and 3 nights in luxury accommodations with all meals served on location.
- A participant manual and other follow-up services with a Hope Restored coach.
Call us to speak with one of our consultants who can help you determine which is right for you.
- Get to Root Issues: Traditional counseling can be very effective and beneficial; however, progress is often very slow and frustrating when the issues feel overwhelming. The Intensive format was designed to allow individuals to get to the root of their issues quickly, with ample time to focus on resolution and growth. The extended amount of time spent within the Intensive setting gives couples the opportunity to go deeper without many of the distractions of daily life, and time to stay long enough to consider the solutions available to them.
- Efficiency: One of the first steps in the Intensive process is an extensive assessment and questionnaire prior to your arrival. This allows the counselor to gather background information and get an idea of the best way to proceed before you arrive for your session. You will receive up to a year’s worth of counseling in 3-5 days, which allows you to make progress in a shorter amount of time than with weekly counseling.
- Our Counselors: Our counselors are specialists in the area of marriage counseling. One analogy we like to use is that of the Mayo Clinic: people go to their regular physician, but they may also be referred to a specialist for help in specific areas. Hope Restored marriage therapists have been trained in the Intensive counseling format to maximize its effectiveness. In addition, several of the Intensive programs provide the perspectives and insights of two professionals, rather than just one.
1. The couples seeking help
Most programs are what we consider “enrichment” focused—meaning that they can facilitate growth or rekindle romance in a relationship that is generally healthy or has a solid foundation. By contrast, Hope Restored Intensives target couples who are often in a marriage crisis (separated, divorcing, hopeless). These couples feel “stuck” and discouraged, and often say they have tried everything else without having a breakthrough or seeing any positive results. Couples often take part in a Hope Restored Intensive as a last ditch effort to save their marriage, not as a booster for enrichment. Our research suggests that frustration and, in some cases, additional harm can be experienced by couples who take part in programs that are not designed to offer what they really need. Some of these programs can open emotional wounds and stir things up even when their design and leadership structure is not sufficient to help find resolution or navigate emotionally charged areas.
Leaders in some programs are kind people with a heart for marriages, but are not trained professionals. One key distinction of Focus on the Family’s Hope Restored Intensives is that all of our counseling staff members are trained counselors/therapists or psychologists (requiring either a Masters Degree or a Ph.D., licensure requirements by the state, thousands of hours of experience and supervision, and so on). While pastors, lay helpers, and marriage mentors can be wonderful facilitators offering compassion, life experience, and testimonies, that is very different from the type of assistance provided by a trained professional equipped with the knowledge, skills, and experience to address more complex dynamics and deeper needs. Meet our counseling staff here.
This is the most significant distinction. Hope Restored Intensives are NOT a typical seminar, workshop, or retreat. There is not a fixed schedule of specific lectures and presentations. They do not offer a cookie-cutter or “canned” approach to the situations and problems clients are experiencing. Our team of clinical professionals has collaborated very closely over the years to develop a personalized approach along with specific techniques that best meet the needs of each couple and encourage change in their relationship. We gather detailed information from each spouse prior to their arrival so that our counselors can get a sense of the unique concerns to consider for every couple.
A Focus on the Family Hope Restored Intensive addresses a variety of topics including communication, infidelity, intimacy and sexual issues, financial strains, blended families, children, and career conflicts. It offers a unique, holistic, and scripturally-based counseling approach that combines the heart, the mind, and a couple’s faith. This approach has proven amazingly effective. In fact, we routinely survey Intensive participants about their experience. Responses to the survey show that roughly 80 percent are still married two years later, with significantly increase marital satisfaction.
We do offer pre-marital Intensives in a limited capacity. For further information, we encourage you to call us and speak with a Hope Restored representative.
We do offer private intensives for couples who are seeking reconciliation after divorce. For further information, we encourage you to call us and speak with a Hope Restored representative.
Just like a physical doctor can’t call his patients and say, “I think you have a cold–please come in for an appointment”, our ethics don’t allow us to pursue your spouse on your behalf. We have a few recommendations to begin the conversation with your spouse:
- Present this as something you’ve come across that you are interested in trying. Ask if he/she would be willing to watch one of our testimony videos with you.
- Don’t use high-pressure. Allow them the safety of coming to the decision in their own time.
- Your spouse may feel better to hear that we are not interested in forcing or guilting anyone to stay in their marriage. We create a safe and healing environment for the individual first, and then the couple. It may help your spouse to see this as an opportunity to find healing for their own heart.
- You are welcome to give your spouse our number (866-875-2915) so they have have their own questions answered safely and confidentially.
Additionally, in the Intensive programs we emphasize the importance of “self-care.” If your spouse is unwilling to attend an Intensive, we still want to help your heart walk this journey in a healthy way. While the majority of our programs are designed for couples in crisis, we do have a program that is designed to help individuals get to a healthy place personally and be an encouragement toward positive change relationally. Call us for personalized information on our 3-Day Spouse’s Intensive.
We hear this concern quite often. For many, it sounds intimidating to think of sharing in a group setting. Many couples arrive dreading the group marriage counseling format, and yet our group format has a 99% satisfaction rate! The group setting does not use a cookie-cutter format, and is very customized and practical.
Benefits of a Group Intensive:
- Many people think their issues are uniquely weird or bad. When you see others dealing with similar issues, there’s a big relief to move from thinking “We’re terrible!” to “We’re not terrible, we’re just struggling!”
- Private counseling only allows you to bring up issues you are aware of. We often see people in the group setting witness things in other couples that they realize are true of them, too. Without the group, they may have never known the issue existed in them or their marriage.
- Many who have concerns about affairs, pornography, or childhood abuse have found it very therapeutic to let their “secret” out in the safe setting of the group. It becomes less of a burden for them to bear alone.
- It’s common to feel emotionally overwhelmed when in the “hot seat” of therapy. This can hamper your brain from remembering and applying the principles of the session. Group work gives your brain some “rests” to learn, grow, and heal in a less emotionally charged way. We often hear from people that some of their biggest insights come from what they see happen in the other couples.
In the end, it will be your decision which program you believe will best suit your needs.
There are three circumstances when we may suggest that a couple seek an alternative route:
- Current substance addiction: The individual would need to complete, or be actively involved in, a rehabilitation program prior to participating in a Hope Restored Intensive. In order for the experience to have a fair chance of being effective, individuals need to be attentive throughout the Intensive without any chemical influence or impairment.
- Current physical or emotional affair: the Intensive will not be as useful. The program’s effectiveness depends on two individuals who are focusing on their marriage. The affair must be cut off, and both partners need to focus and commit to the present relationship prior to registering for an Intensive. Even if you are unsure about the future, there needs to be at least a temporary commitment to focusing on this opportunity with an open heart.
- Case of domestic abuse or violence: We would need to do additional screening to determine if our programs would be the best fit for the couple.
We realize that rooming arrangements might be a concern for some couples because they are currently separated or they simply don’t feel comfortable staying in the same room together. We are committed to making sure each couple’s stay is as safe and comfortable as possible. If additional rooms are needed, our team will be able to provide you with the necessary information to make these arrangements (the additional room cost will be the couple’s responsibility).
4-Day Group Intensive:
Missouri – $3950 (Partial Scholarships Available)
Michigan – $4023.50 (Partial Scholarships Available)
Georgia – $3950
3-Day Intensive with 1 Counselor:
Missouri – $4450
3-Day Intensive with 2 Counselors:
Missouri – $4950
Prices listed are per couple
Focus on the Family recommends that all clients contact their insurance company or human resources department prior to coming to an Intensive to clarify what benefits may apply. When requested by the client, we will provide a detailed receipt with a diagnosis and CPT code for your insurance purposes. This receipt will show the marriage counselor and clinic information, EIN, License number and the amount the client has paid. However, Focus on the Family currently does not submit to insurance companies on behalf of participants of Hope Restored Intensives.
For Intensives in Branson, we recommend:
- Springfield-Branson Regional (1 hr drive)
- Branson Airport, Branson Missouri
- North Arkansas Regional airport (2.5 hr drive)
- Tulsa, Oklahoma; Kansas City, MO; St. Louis, MO (all about 3.5-4 hr drive)
For Intensives in Greenville, we recommend:
- Grand Rapids Airport (45 minute drive)
- Detroit Airport (2.5 hr drive)
- Chicago O’Hare Airport (4 hour drive)
For Intensives in Rome, we recommend:
- Atlanta airports (1.5 hr drive)
- Chattanooga airports (1.5 hr drive)
A Hope Restored Marriage Intensive is more than just a one-time service—our goal is the long-term health of your marriage. With this goal in mind, we have put in place several resources for our alumni:
- Participants are given a Hope Restored manual to work through to supplement the experience following the Intensive, along with a 15-week resource to be studied in the weeks following the Intensive.
- Each couple is assigned a coach who checks in on them from time to time.
- For couples who were working with a therapist in their area prior to attending a Hope Restored Intensive, our counselors can connect with those local therapists in order to update them on progress made during the Intensive. This is subject to the disclosure process.
- Alumni often return to the Focus on the Family Retreat Center in Missouri for discounted “retreat weekends” to get away together for a refresher on specific topics.
- If further help is needed, couples are eligible to participate in a second Hope Restored Intensive at a 25% discount.
Our Statement of Faith reads as follows:
- We believe the Bible to be the inspired, only infallible, authoritative Word of God;
- We believe that there is one God, eternally existent in three persons: Father, Son and Holy Spirit;
- We believe in the deity of our Lord Jesus Christ, in His virgin birth, in His sinless life, in His miracles, in His vicarious and atoning death through His shed blood, in His bodily resurrection, in His ascension to the right hand of the Father and in His personal return in power and glory;
- We believe that for the salvation of lost and sinful humanity, regeneration by the Holy Spirit through faith in Jesus Christ is absolutely essential.
- We believe in the present ministry of the Holy Spirit by whose indwelling the Christian is enabled to live a godly life;
- We believe in the resurrection of both the saved and the lost, they who are saved unto the resurrection of life and they who are lost unto the resurrection of damnation;
- We believe in the spiritual unity of believers in our Lord Jesus Christ.
- The Statement of Faith does not exhaust the extent of our beliefs. The Bible itself, as the inspired and infallible Word of God that speaks with final authority concerning truth, morality, and the proper conduct of mankind, is the sole and final source of all that we believe. For purposes of Focus’ faith, doctrine, practice, policy, and discipline, our Board of Directors is Focus’ final interpretive authority on the Bible’s meaning and application.