Marriage resources
Communication
Communication
If communication, or lack thereof, is contributing to the difficulties in your marriage, know you are not alone. Our Hope Restored therapists have discovered that communication is the single most reported problem among couples who are experiencing difficulty in their relationship.
Download “Listening with the Heart“
Infidelity
Infidelity
We hear from many couples facing the earth-shattering pain of infidelity in their marriage. Even something as devastating as adultery does not always signal the end of a marriage. However, all affairs must be ended before attending a Hope Restored marriage intensive.
Download our “Recovery From An Affair”
Read “Pornography and Virtual Infidelity”
Read “Marital Infidelity“
Read “Restoring Your Marriage After Infidelity“
Listen to “Overcoming the Obstacles of Infidelity”
Listen to “Restoring Hope to Your Marriage“
Finances
Financial Issues Within Marriage
Frequently, financial conflicts focus on how each spouse handles money. But most arguments about money really grow out of a failure to understand each other’s needs and to respect each other’s personalities.
Read “Don’t Let Money Make A Mess of Your Marriage“
Read “Its Not About The Money“
Read “Cash Clash“
My Spouse Wants A Divorce
My Spouse Wants A Divorce
Our Hope Restored team sometimes meets with couples who are facing a crisis so deep that one spouse believes divorce is the only solution.
There are practical steps a spouse can take when his or her mate wants to pursue a divorce.
Read “When You Don’t Want To Divorce But Your Spouse Does”
Listen to “Embracing Imperfections in Your Marriage“
Download “Should I get a Divorce?“
Read “Is Divorce the Right Answer“
Pornography
Pornography
We have couples come to us for help after pornography has wrecked their marriage. Even something as devastating as pornography does not mean the marriage is destined for divorce.
Read “Pornography and Virtual Infidelity“
Read “How a Pastor Overcame Pornography”
Read “How We Overcame Pornography Addiction“
Read ” Your Husbands Porn Confession“
Self Care
Self Care
Take a deep breath. During a crisis, it’s easy to make impulsive decisions. Slow down, take a deep breath, and spend some time in prayer.
Take care of your heart. When conflict escalates, take a time-out. Use that time to identify your feelings, and then return to the conversation when you are less emotionally charged.
Bring your best self to the table. You don’t have control of your spouse’s behavior. The only person you can control is you and your response.
Take counsel. It’s important to process the struggles you’re facing with someone you can trust. Find one or two confidants who can tell you what you need to hear, and not what you want to hear.
Read “When My Spouse Takes Space“
Read “Emotional Safety“
COUNSELING CONSULTATION & REFERRALS
Help is here! We can help you find professional help with Christian perspectives you can trust.
To request a conversation with Focus on the Family’s Counseling Department, call 1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays from 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. (Mountain Time), or complete our Counseling Consultation Request Form.
Please be prepared to leave your contact information for a counselor to return a call to you as soon as possible. The consultation is available at no cost to you and will be with one of our licensed or pastoral counseling specialists.
